Monday, April 16, 2012

Spring Break Tour with contest!

Greetings everyone!  Today I want to welcome Kathy Kulig to my blog. Kathy Kulig is the award-winning author of sizzling paranormal, contemporary and erotic romances. Critics have described her writing as “very raw and hot”, “wonderfully unique” and “entertaining and captivating”. She’s won or placed in a number of writing contests including the PRISM Award, the EPIC Award, the Maggie, the Fire and Ice Contest, and others. Her interest in mythology, quantum physics and the supernatural, and also her extensive background in science provide inexhaustible material for new projects in the paranormal realms. Expect a hot, passionate read with lots of adventure.

Ménages:  Is More HOTTER?

Ménage à trois or threesomes are very popular in erotic romance. The idea of three people getting it on is hard to resist (ha) and a challenge to write. In erotic romance, probably the most common ménage is two men and one woman. Of course there are two female/one male ménages, all male and all female. And there are all kinds of emotional dynamics, different sexual orientation, etc. to explore in each, so to keep it brief, I’ll only be talking about two men/one woman in this post.

When it comes to sexual interaction, there are two basic types here too. M-F-M, means the two men have intercourse with the woman but the men don’t have sex with each other. A M-M-F ménage would mean the men do have sex with each other as well as with the woman. But that doesn’t mean in the heat of the moment the men in a M-F-M ménage don’t end up touching or brushing up against the other’s naughty bits. When everything is that close in a sexual encounter, accidental intimate touching will occur.

In some relationships, a couple has been dating a while, or are married and decide to bring in a third person in a sexual encounter either to live out a sexual fantasy, to spice up their love life or because one or the other is attracted to the third person. The third reason is especially common for couples involved in a swinging lifestyle. Or it might be a one-time curiosity fling. In a swinging lifestyle, a couple feels multiple sexual partners enhance their sexual journey as a couple and puts a little spice into their social life and marriage.

Another scenario I’ve seen in ménage stories is a more polyamorous relationship where there’s a sexual and emotional connection (real relationship) between all three. Not just sex.

If the three partners are married, it would be called polygamy.

So you might be thinking, what’s the difference between a polyamorous relationship and the swinging lifestyle? Both are “open relationships” looking for sex with multiple partners. The swinger couple has more recreational sex with friends, think, “friends with benefits”. A polyamorous relationship is a deeper emotional connection like boyfriends and girlfriends.

Besides erotic romance books, you’ll find ménages in classic or mainstream fiction and film too. Here are a few:


Ernest Hemingway, The Garden of Eden (1986). An American expatriate couple who bring another woman into their marriage.

Jean Rhys, Quartet (1928). Rhys’ fictionalized affair with Ford Madox Ford.

Robert Heilein, The Moon is a Harsh Mistress. A 3-some family unit with a wife, a senior husband and a junior husband living on the moon.

Dylan Thomas, Under Milkwood. A man with two wives.

Laurell K. Hamilton and her Anita Blake series. Asher, Anita Blake and Jean-Claude.


Butch Cassidy & the Sundance Kid (1969) Butch, Sundance and Etta Place.

Sunday Bloody Sunday (1971) a homosexual man, heterosexual woman and bisexual man.

Summer Lovers (1982) Vacationers in Greece. F-M-F

The Duchess (2008) w/Keira Knightly and Ralph Fienness. Ménage among the British royalty.

Ménages makes for entertaining a hot reads. Check out the Ellora’s Cave website and scroll down on the left side for ménages. They have tons of great stories. In my current release, Spring Break, my characters have a ménage in a sex (swing) club.

SPRING BREAK by Kathy Kulig

Release April 13

Exotika, contemporary

ISBN: 9781419939822


Spring break beyond your wildest fantasies? If Justin Watkins can stop keeping watch over his college students like Big Brother, he might convince the prim-and-proper Mariko Maguire to be his sex partner at the invitation-only adult club called TropiX.
Mariko is in Fort Lauderdale on business, trying to secure new clients for her PR firm. Abandoning prior commitments for one wickedly lustful evening—a one-night stand of kinky sex—was not on her agenda.

Carter Bosworth is looking for an evening of sex games during his layover in the tropical playground. He’s a regular at TropiX and always open for a new thrill. His plans are sidetracked, but it may be to his benefit after all when he meets the beautiful Mariko.

The potent heat developing between Justin and Mariko tempts her into shedding her inhibitions, and an exploration in eroticism develops beyond her imagination at the fetish club.

What types of ménages do you like to read in books? Paranormal or contemporary? I also have a paranormal ménage in my book Dragon Witch. (a biologist/witch, a space pilot, a shapeshifting dragon) and they’re on another planet. J What are your thoughts about ménages?

CONTEST:  I’m giving away a FREE ebook from my backlist. To enter, leave a comment on this post with your email and a name will be selected tomorrow. Thanks so much for visiting and thank you Francesca for having me. Can’t wait to see you at Romanticon in October!!

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  1. For me, any combination of partners can be interesting as long as there is some sort of emotional connection and that can be simply the desire to give one another pleasure. As long as I can see that connection, I'm satisfied:)

  2. I like reading about the ones with two men and one woman because it is a novelty. I am a married woman who will not ever do anything like that but it is nice to have the fantasy/read about the fantasy and think about what it would be like. It is more personal that way.

  3. Kathy, Thanks for being here today! I love reading about m-f-m menages. There's something really hot about one woman being the focus of all that sexy masculinity! Of course, the m-m-f menages are pretty erotic too. Watching two guys go for one another while the female plays voyeur and/or jumps in to the action can hold a lot of appeal. Grin...

  4. I love a committed threesome, either m/m/f and m/f/m works for me. Since I read a lot of paranormal romances, it's fun to have a sexy menage, but a contemporary story can make my favorite's shelf too.

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  5. Hi Paris, I like the different emotions involved in a menage, even if it's just for adult fun, there are emotions and unique dynamics worked in the encounter.

    Hi Kimber, That's what's great about writing and reading alternative relationships. You don't have to ever indulge yourself. You can explore and/or fantacize in your mind. :)

  6. Hi Francesca, Thanks so much for having me. I'm partical to writing MFM--all that sexy male attention, how hot is that? LOL MMF can be cool too.

    Hey Cathy, The committed threesome has some interesting dynamics and it can work well especially in paranormal. I did that in Dragon Witch.

  7. Thanks so much everyone for helping me celebrate the release of Spring Break. The winner of the free ebook is Cathy M.

    I'll send Cathy an email and notify her.

    Thanks again, Francesca for having me as your guest.